How To Create a Sanctuary at Home
A full house is energetic, happy chaos. That’s fitting for kids, who have the energy to go-go-go until they collapse into bed. It’s not ideal for moms, though. You need balance to pace yourself for another decade or two of this. It’s vital to take breathers regularly in a peaceful spot without people or too many distractions. No meditation room handy? These ideas on how to create a sanctuary at home are the next best thing.
De-Stress Your Surroundings
The goal is to remove yourself from the action and spend 15 minutes somewhere soothing. Carve out space where you can remember what calm feels like: a bathroom with candles, a screened-in porch, even a walk-in closet with a Yoga mat where you could do some stretching. If you can retreat to your bedroom during the day, remember that muted and dark colors will make it a more relaxing refuge. Incorporate soft shades of blue, the most tranquil color, in some way; maybe an art print or plush cushions. Keep the area free of clutter so you can restore some clarity of mind, too.
Enlist Some Help
If you can count on the kids to nap every day, that’s when you can slip away to your sanctuary. But if your day isn’t so predictable, call in some backup—even though doing so might be difficult. Even though asking for help can be hard, know that it’s okay to do. If you feel as though you can never do enough, your “work shift” is never actually over. This isn’t true; it’s a mindset that’s detrimental to both you and your family. You can at least justify a “work break.” Coordinate a time with your partner when you can detach and lock the door behind you. Have a babysitter or parent stop by for a reprieve. Put the breaks on the schedule.
Use the Time Wisely
No chores. Although it sounds like heaven to sort the laundry without a little person hanging off your limbs, that is not a break. You need to reconnect with yourself. That could mean reading, working out, or taking a bath. Make sure there are no phone screens within reach. Netflix may be an escape, but it won’t rejuvenate you. What do you find relaxing? A vacation by the sea, hiking in the mountains, an appointment at the spa? Inject this break with little reminders that can take you there mentally, like the sound of waves lapping on the beach or essential oils that invoke nature. Pro tip: Ask for a set of noise-canceling headphones for the next holiday.
A mom isn’t the only one who benefits from learning how to create a sanctuary at home. You’re showing your kids that quiet alone time is as healthy as an early bedtime and eating vegetables. They may not understand at first, but keep explaining that you’re not mad, you’re not sad, you’re just a human being with your own needs. Most important, listen to yourself while you’re saying it, at least until you wholeheartedly believe it.
